Scents of Tranquility

We all feel low from time to time. When I feel the blues I find aromatherapy to be a quick fix, an instant mood booster. Though it may be temporary but most of the times what we need, is few hours of serenity to calm the mind to brainstorm solutions and a relaxed state of mind helps us think better and panic less.

I personally found that aromatherapy calms my mind, lifts my mood and helps me deal with my anxiety and panic-attacks.

Beautiful scents immediately take us to a specific time in our lives. I like to describe it this way- scent takes us on a journey to nostalgia now it may be good or bad but, when a good memory associated with a scent comes to us it’s delightful to be taken on the trip of aromatherapy . A specific cologne or perfume can remind us a specific person, a specific place, specific memory from childhood etc.

Note: Only do this if you are not allergic to fragrance. If you are on medication or have a specific health condition, please consult a professional.

Here are a few truly calming scents perfect after a stressful day.

  1. Lavender

You knew this was coming, lavender is the first scent that comes to mind when we talk about aromatherapy. Lavender is believed to calm down the nerves and promote sleep. It can help with stress. Personally this scent works perfectly for me it sends me in a daze. It’s subtle but it works like sleep it slowly comes to you overpowers you and can make you feel calm. But it can be heady so, start slow with how much lavender you incorporate into your nighttime rituals.

2. Eucalyptus

Often used in balms and incense. It can promote relaxation, and help with a blocked nose and cold symptoms. Eucalyptus is quite strong so a little goes a long way. A lot of yoga studios use this during power yoga sessions.

3. Rose

Rose is the fragrance that most people have some memory with. A very common flower, a symbol of romance and beauty. So, if you’ve gotten a whiff of fresh roses on a beautiful day and it made you feel calm then, this would be a good choice. It can help with headaches and enhance mood.

4. Neroli

This is a bit rare because it’s such a specific scent that you may not have a memory with yet, however, it has a great relaxing scent that can help in enhancing mood. It is used a lot in spas and aromatherapy specific massages.

Blush Flowers-Photo by me.
Lavender From Canva

How to use these fragrances

  • The most common way is by using Essential oils and diffusers. Add 3-5 drops of essential oil and dilute it in two spoons of water pour it on the top of the oil burner and set the tealight candle inside. Slowly it will heat the oil and water solution and spread the scent in the room. This is the best way to start using aromatherapy as you can figure out from a distance if this works for you.
  • Perfume, wearing perfumes/colognes is a personal form of self expression but if you find a specific scent that really calms you down then you use perfumes or perfume oils.
  • Pillow Sprays, these are a bit more subtle and faint but spraying them on your pillow can create a very delicate sense of aroma. Ideally all natural/organic and clean pillow sprays are recommended. Like natural distilled waters with lavender/rose extracts. Because they are safer for the skin.
  • Candles are the most common accent in aromatherapy as they are easy to find, last long and look aesthetic as well.
  • Bath or shower products if you enjoy taking showers or baths before going to bed then soaps, shower gels, shampoos with calming scents can make your bath experience feel like a spa. But this isn’t great if your skin is allergic to fragrance but if not. It can definitely help.
Photographed by me at the Fragonard Museum in Paris.

Scents are personal and your senses will immediately tell you if you like something or not and if it works for you or not, as scents create an instant emotional reaction. Scents add a great feeling of personality and calmness to the home as well. We can all use calming down and any way that helps even a little with calmness is worth a try.

Rituals for Winter

There are days when you feel down and not up for anything. When days feel like evenings and evenings like night. The days when you can hear the loud winds and rustling of twigs. It can feel unsettling and lonely. But it has it’s own kind of beauty. I have always disliked winters but appreciating them makes me enjoy summer that much more it elevates the real joy to greater heights.

It’s almost always worse when it starts raining on a cold winter day. You can feel a shiver down your spine. Here are a few tips to make gloomy winter days comforting.

Somewhere in London photograph by me.

Rituals for a Gloomy Day

  1. Lack of sunshine always brings me down, makes me feel irritated and uncomfortable, so on days like those it’s important to remember and remind yourself with gratitude of the warmth you have in life. The comfort of home.
  2. Great time to try out some winter delicacies like warm soups or spicy recipes to change your day.
  3. Grab a good book or watch a great movie you’ve always wanted to stream.
  4. Surround yourself with warm colours. Red, Maroon, Burgundy, Plum. This is also a great way to get into the festive season.
  5. Create an ambience of warmth and comfort with soft cozy lights, scented candles, music.
  6. Do any ritual that reminds you of your childhood.

Here are some great songs that go with gloomy days

I’m not including Christmas tracks because that is a dedicated list in its own right.

  • California Dreamin’- (any version is good but I personally prefer Nancy Sinatra’s version)
  • Stormy Weather-Harold Arlen
  • Solitude-Billie Holiday
  • La Javanaise- Serge Gainsbourg
  • Old Money- Lana Del Rey
  • Various Storms and Saints- Florence + The Machine

Winter can be a lonely time especially these days but moments like those can be inspiring to create art. Think of things that help you to feel warm and as a result others as well.

Self-care tips for Winter

  • Take care of yourself by drinking lots of water and keeping hydrated in winters we tend to drink less water but we need it that much more.
  • Try to add spices to your cooking, baking and beverages. Add spices like pepper, paprika, turmeric, nutmeg and ginger.
  • Do cardio to keep warm or go for a run.
  • Take warm showers/baths moisturize and add some great winter scents. Warm woody perfumes with spicy accords or powdery perfumes with notes of sandalwood or go sweeter with Christmas themed scents like vanilla, cinnamon, cardamom.
  • Pour yourself a glass of wine and read a good book. Or watch classic comedies.
  • Dress in your best winter style there’s nothing like a cozy sweater.
In New Delhi photographed by me.

Usually in winters I read about summer and reminisce about hot July nights but lately I’ve been trying to embody the spirit of each season so I find myself reading about winter even more, listening to music inspired by winter, and trying to find the best ways to make winters as comfortable as they can be.

Candles and warmth photo by me.

Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.

Victor Hugo

In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.

Albert Camus

Remember no winter lasts forever. This way you’ll find the best in it and note that Spring is always waiting to greet you.

take a walk right now…

Walking is such a simple yet effective form of exercise not just for the body but for the mind.

Walking is a great way to be somewhere and nowhere at the same time. A moment with yourself. There’s nothing a power walk in fresh air cannot solve.

Reasons you should consider taking a walk right now……

  1. It’s an incredible step towards a healthier life. Walking for the sake of walking makes you energetic, active and refreshed.
  2. Inspiration will come to you. I can’t count the number of poems and song ideas have come to me while on a walk. So whatever it is you need inspiration with it will come to you.
  3. Being in nature is a form of accessible therapy, a cathartic tool you carry with yourself wherever you go.
  4. You will feel more aware, more present in your body.
  5. It is a sensual experience, you can feel the wind in your hair, the sun on your cheeks, the drizzle on your skin, the grass beneath you, you can smell the flowers or the petrichor if it has just rained, you can listen to the sound of the birds and obviously see all the little pretty things nature has to offer each day.
  6. Zone out, I used to walk just to listen to music, and listen to music just to walk, It is a great way to zone out and decompress.

A little afternoon interlude

Can you feel your energy draining around 3pm? We all get that hazy feeling when we start to feel lazy and want to drift into sleep, especially these days when most people are working from home or are in lockdown.

You may feel “I’m going to take a nap” and then you end up waking up in the evening, feeling lethargic, lazy and lacking in energy to do anything especially exercise.

Here are a few things to do after lunch to avoid that afternoon haze

  1. Right after lunch, have some green tea don’t lie down. This is a healthy habit to feel alert and aid in healthy weight loss. It can be tempting to lay down and drift into sleep but this disrupts the sleep cycle, by falling into this cycle you will find it harder to fall asleep at night and as a consequence wake up late and repeat this pattern all over again. I’m trying to break this pattern right now and it’s hard and it needs dedication however, I have done this before and it really works.
  2. Around 4pm indulge in your dose of caffeine, this is a good time to have coffee or tea, as it won’t keep you up at night. This is what has helped me from napping.
  3. However, don’t be worried to take a nap if you really feel like you need it. Keep it short, no more than 30 minutes. Naps are beneficial and they refresh and reset your brain however, sometimes we don’t really need them we are just tempted, so our naps turn to a long period of sleep that can slow you down.
  4. Plan an evening workout, cardio, or slow stretches, walks, dancing whatever makes you feel energetic.
  5. When in doubt look for music or short clips online that interest you and motivate you, something so interesting that you forget about your laziness.

You will feel so much more energised with this little change, and find time that you forgot you had. Afternoons can be calm and beautiful, plenty of extra time to do the things you never find time to do. Especially during these times…

Lilac Sky

The little things in life, day-to-day musings are the greatest source of inspiration.

I specifically love that specific time at the cusp of evening and night, right before twilight when the sky looks like an impressionist painting and just like the impressionists I want to capture those dreamy moments of drifting hues.

Lilac Sky Photograph taken by me.

When the skies bleed colours

in between the clouds

It makes me wonder what a wonderful world

What keeps my heart awake is colorful silence

Claude Monet

Rituals for Autumn

Autumn is a truly vibrant time of the year. It always inspires me in a philosophical way. As a lover of summer, I feel a bit melancholic when the warmth of summertime slowly begins to fade.


Change of seasons are a great time to make little lifestyle changes, to adapt to the changing environment.

Right at the cusp of the fading warmth and falling leaves, there are rituals I have begun doing to carry me through the entirety of autumn. It made me feel warm and energised.

In mythology, philosophy, ancient civilisations and literataure. Autumn is a time to shed the past.

In any circumstance mimicking nature is our best bet to live full and vibrant lives.

Just like the leaves that change colour, fall and drift into the wind we must do so as well.

No matter how small the change, change is essential to embrace the spirit of autumn.

Especially in 2020, our world has been a whirlwind of sudden shifts beyond our comfort. It may have pushed some of you, into a deep state of restless melancholy, your plans are on hold, your mood has shifted in directions you didn’t intend.

Let’s see it this way, the only way that doesn’t cause a panic attack.

This is the time to reshape your life, let go of everything that doesn’t harmonize with your melody. Turn over a new leaf, learn to move on.

Autumn Rituals

  1. Now this first step is going to seem futile however, it is a very tiny baby step. When autumn started I incorporated it’s colours daily in any way I could. That could be dressing in hues of green, warm yellow, mustard, red, orange and finally brown. Just to get in the zone of autumn. Little things like painting your nails orange, or making slight changes with different home décor accents.
  2. Adding Fall Scents, such as cinnamon, pumpkin, cardamom or any sweet fragrance with few spicy accords, you can add these through candles, perfume or even cooking/baking.
  3. Autumn music to truly embrace the change.

here are a few suggestions…….

  1. Early Autumn– Ella Fitzgerald
  2. Autumn in New York-Bing Crosby
  3. Les Feullies Mortes- Yves Montad
  4. September in the Rain-Frank Sinatra
  5. When October Goes-Rosemary Clooney
  6. Autumn Leaves-Bing Crosby
  7. The September Of My Years-Frank Sinatra

Here are some autumn impressions

Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall

F.Scott Fitzgerald

Notice that Autumn is more the season of the soul than of nature

Friedrich Nietzsche

Designers want me to dress like Spring, in billowing things, I don’t feel like Spring I feel like a warm Red Autumn

Marilyn Monroe

As long as Autumn lasts I shall not have hands, canvas and colours enough to paint the beautiful things I see.

Vincent Van Gogh

Apart from the obvious aesthetic enchantment of fall there are some serious changes that we can make to our lives for self-betterment.

  • Let go of anything that weighs you down, any habit, word, feelings that hinder happiness.
  • Let go of the past, it is easier said than done, but if you haven’t begun then start now.
  • Write down 5 good things that you felt in the summer thank your life for those moments and let go of any unpleasant memories.
  • Make healthier food choices, all the harvest that autumn has to offer. In ancient civilizations autumn was a great time to come together and enjoy the harvest before winter took it away.

Every season is there to teach us something new, we just have to capture it’s essential spirit and live it to the fullest.

A new morning habit

We all mostly, do the same thing, the second we wake up. Check Instagram.

It’s such a sneaky little act that made it, into my morning rituals, I don’t ever remember mornings being any other way. It’s a real shame because, mornings are a sacred time between you and the sunshine, it will only guide you as much as you let it.

I used to wait for the mornings, the glimmering sunshine that pierces the shadows of the previous night. It wasn’t until I started to dread mornings I realised that something went wrong and it had to change. It was this simple act of staying away from social media and internet first thing in the morning that changed the vibration of the whole day that lied ahead.

If you can wake up with a smile, with self-confidence then why shouldn’t you keep it?

a beautiful dawn through the window…… photo taken by me.

It’s toxic to compare yourself to others anyway, but to do it first thing in the morning is to disrespect yourself, to the dawn, to the morning and to the sun.

Remember, most posts you see on social media are made under false pretenses. Those apps are designed to show you only what the user wants you to see. Even though each “happy” person on social media feels the same way when they see other “happy” people.

We are all doing the same things and even though you may know it deep down it gets almost impossible to convince your mind any different. So tell yourself you’re creating some boundaries. Your sacred dawn should remain blissful.

Here’s how your life will change with just this one simple habit.

  1. The mood you set in the morning carries throughout the day, so if you wake up and try not to check social media, you will have so much extra time to do the things that truly make you smile.
  2. You will have time and energy to put into designing a relaxing and energising morning ritual that truly works for you.
  3. You will have the opportunity to take your time to pamper yourself, get dressed, have some coffee all without a frown on your face.
  4. You will learn about yourself, you will notice little things, the leaves, the wind, the smell of fresh grass.
  5. You will become more aware of what it is like to be in your body and in your mind.

Here’s a few things you can do tonight to make sure all of the above happens for you.

  1. Take a deep breath, jot down things you want to do come morning.
  2. Set some water aside for next morning so this is the first thing you do at daybreak.
  3. Make an energising playlist of songs that always make you smile and make you want to dance.
  4. If possible turn off your phone until morning so you don’t get tempted to check social media. If your waking up is dependent on the alarm in your phone, then you are going to have to build some strong will power, to truly not check social media first thing in the morning.
  5. Another tip that really helped me was to set time aside during the day to check social media, preferable in the afternoon or evening.

These seemingly little changes made a huge impact on me, now I’m not saying it’s easy to stick to this, you’ll probably relapse at first, and fall into the cycle of letting social media lead your life. However, remember you are letting it lead your life, and just like that you can stop it. Just a few days and you will see it really makes you smile more throughout the day. 😀